When’s the last time you did something really spontaneous that you can remember?
V: Yesterday? I don’t have a car on campus but I was borrowing one of my friends’ and I almost ended up in Richmond…yeah, I feel like that’s pretty spontaneous.
How did you end up almost in Richmond?
V: Oh, because I took the car and we were like, let’s get on 64 and we drove for 40 minutes and then I was like I kind of need to turn around though I feel bad.
Were you just driving for fun?
V: Literally just driving for fun. We weren’t doing anything except driving for fun
A: I think mine was last month during the end of January. My girlfriend and I were supposed to go on a date, and I forgot originally where we were supposed to go, but the day of the date she was supposed to come over at 9:30 in the morning and she came over and she’s like, “Hey, actually, do you want to just go to Norfolk?” And I was like, “I mean, yeah.” So we got in the car and we just went to Norfolk. Originally we were supposed to go to the Chrysler museum. But, oh, no, it was a Monday during finals. I could not play that right, because I remember it was a Monday. So the museum was closed on Mondays, so we just ended up driving around Norfolk for half the day, and we went to the mall and we got food and it was really fun.
What do you think is the value in doing things like that, especially during finals?
A: You have more fun than you think you would when you do something spontaneous like that. You can plan to go to Norfolk and it’ll be really, really fun, but to know that you woke up that morning, for example, not knowing how your day was going to go and then have it going any way that it can go. I think it’s just a lot more fun that way and it also forces you to live a little bit more in the moment and not think about, like during finals for example, all the things that you have to do or something like that.
Do you guys have any goals for this semester so far?
V: In what regard?
V: I mean my GPA needs to go up. I think my mental health in general needs to be more on par? I think it’s just generally baby steps towards improvement overall in my life.
A: I think I’m just overall trying to be happier, whatever that means. So doing things that make me happy like, not staying in Swem until one o’clock in the morning. And doing those spontaneous things with my friends, to just text my friends and say, “Hey, do you wanna go ice skating?” I’m just doing things that make me happy and allow me to live my best life.
V: I think I’ve also genuinely figured out who I want to spend my time with and who I don’t want to spend my time with. Actively pursuing that is something I’m also working towards so I’m not wasting my time with insignificant things. There’s this main goal of doing things that I’m going to enjoy and I should be doing it with people that I’m going to enjoy being with.
What types of people do you find yourself wanting to be around the most?
V: People that go with the flow. Academics are very important, but if you’re gonna stress me out about it, I don’t really need you around me. Stress culture in general, at this campus is kind of intense. So finding people that understand that, like there is a stress culture, but can differentiate academics from their actual life, I think is people that I like to surround myself with. I’m also extroverted and when people are extroverted I feel like my energy just builds up in general, so my friends are pretty much upbeat.
A: I’d probably say people who want the best for me and have my best interest at heart too. I like to think that I’m a really caring person; I think about my friends a lot. And also people who make me smile. If I have to be around you and I’m mad, or I’m sad, that’s not really somebody I want to be around. I want to be around people who can make me laugh and who aren’t afraid to be themselves because their energy also bounces off of me and then I want to be a better person and I want to be myself.
How do you guys know each other? Or how did you meet each other?
V: We met through a mutual friend, but we became closer because we’re both in APO. We were in the same pledge class her sophomore year and my freshman year.
What other organizations are you involved in on campus?
V: APO and I’m in Pineapple Kids.
No way – I used to be, too! I was in Pineapple Kids my freshman through junior year.
V: I tutor normally on Tuesdays. I’m also a chemistry Major and I’m in a chemistry research lab. But yeah, those are the three main things.
Is that when they bring kids to Swem at night time? Is that what that is?
V: It’s like facility management?
Yeah, we mentor and tutor the children of people who work in dining halls and facility management, and professors.
V: I don’t tutor a professor’s child, I tutor a sixth grader and her mother works in Landrum as a custodial worker, so I think it’s just facilities management in general, but not professors.
The reason I left was because I just had too many other things going on, but it’s a great organization. When I was leaving, we were still trying to find kids.
V: Yeah. There’s actually three, there’s three of them. So, I tutor a sixth grader that goes to Berkeley, I think she goes to Berkeley or her younger sister goes to Berkeley. There was a fourth grader and then there’s a 10th grader. Three of us tutor them individually. They do Tuesdays and Thursdays, and I do Tuesdays with two other sophomores and then Thursdays, I’m not 100% sure, but I know their tutor on Thursdays as well.
Last week, there were some kids here and one girl pulled out her recorder
V: My girl, yeah, the fourth grader, Becca. I tutor Becca. The 10th grader whipped out a recorder and I was just like, “Oh, we’re doing this.” That was my little group from 6:30-8:30. Yeah, she’s lowkey a VSCO girl since someone gave her a scrunchie.
A: Get her a hydroflask for her birthday or something.
What brought you guys to the floor here specifically?
V: This is where we normally spill tea from the week.
A: We spill tea we catch up.
V: Yeah, I live in Barrett and she lives in Richmond. Yeah and at APO meetings.
A: But I run the APO meetings because I’m on exec.
V: So we don’t really talk so we talk here.
A: Yeah, so I was updating her on some things, and, she was gonna update me on some things before I go to my meeting.
How long have you guys been meeting at this spot for?
A: It’s been going on all year
How many times a week?
A: Once or twice a week…
V: But sometimes it’s at a table if it’s something that other people can hear…
A: Because sometimes we talk about super personal things, like romantic relationships and stuff like that, and I don’t want to risk anybody who knows them hearing it, so we just come over here and we just talk about it. She’s a great person to talk to about those sorts of things.
Do you mind if I ask you what your tattoo says?
A: Oh my tattoo? Yeah, so it’s “c’est la vie” which means “such is life” in French, this is the only French I speak. I used to be this very uptight person and I planned every second of my day. I tried to find reasons for everything that happened, which I’m still working on, but I do that a lot. I also used to stress a lot about what people think about me, before I came out as gay, and I heard a song my freshman year that was called c’est la vie, and I really liked it and it was basically just saying that stuff happens, but you just kind of have to get through it as best as you can. I’ve had a lot of really bad things happen to me in life, but I’m learning to get through it and deal with it, and let it roll off my shoulder, so I got this tattoo six months ago, as a little reminder to myself.